TikToker Esther Migwi reveals why most women from Central Kenya are ending marriages

TikToker Esther Migwi has sparked debate over marriage, infidelity and financial pressure after arguing that poverty is pushing some women to walk away from relationships in search of better support.

In a lengthy video, Migwi said some women in marriages become frustrated when they feel their husbands are investing more in side relationships than in their wives and children.

She argued that men should learn to “balance” their responsibilities instead of neglecting their first families.

‘Poverty is the enemy’

Migwi said she believes financial struggles are at the centre of some marriage problems, particularly when wives feel they are being left behind while other women receive better treatment.

“Poverty is the enemy,” she said, arguing that a woman who feels her husband is taking her backwards financially may eventually decide to leave the relationship.

She gave examples of situations where a wife may struggle with basic needs while another woman allegedly receives more expensive treatment, including better housing or financial support.

According to Migwi, such situations can make women question why they should continue making sacrifices in a marriage where they feel unsupported.

Her message to men

Migwi also made broad comparisons between men from different Kenyan communities, including Kikuyu and Luo men, while discussing how they allegedly treat their wives and second partners.

She claimed that some Luo men are more conscious of how their families appear and may invest heavily in their wives, while arguing that some Kikuyu men fail to do the same.

Her remarks were presented as a call for men to examine how they treat their wives and children rather than immediately blaming women for leaving marriages.

Migwi also spoke about education, saying women may become frustrated when children in a marriage receive less support than children associated with a side relationship.

She insisted that she was not encouraging couples to separate, but wanted men to “sit down properly” and understand what may be pushing women away.

“If you know how to balance, those women will not leave,” she said.

Migwi concluded by urging men to address financial pressure and family responsibilities, arguing that women increasingly consider their financial future when making decisions about marriage.